Or… how do you mend a broken heart?
There are a lot of songs about breaking up. Nearly as many as there are about falling in love. Some break ups are easy to deal with. Others hurt so much you think you’ll never get over it.
You’re probably wondering what on earth I’m doing talking about break-ups on a romance blog. Believe it or not, it does make sense. Because sometimes what helps us get over a break up is finding someone new. Not right away, of course. It does take time to heal, especially if the break up was especially nasty or came after a long relationship. Sooner or later, though, you have to try again.
I’ve heard the saying many times that you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. Or princess, as the case may be. There are people who are fortunate enough to find their true match the first time out. Most of us have heard about people who married their high school, or even junior high or elementary school, sweetheart and decades later are as happy as they’ve ever been. For most of us, it just doesn’t work that way.
Again you ask, what does this have to do with romance? Well, what’s romance? Isn’t it about that first blush of meeting someone new, finding out how compatible you are? Feeling that rush of warmth that flows through you when you look into his or her eyes. Wanting to be with them all the time.
So you’ve dated someone for months. Maybe even years. Lived together, talked about marriage. And then all of a sudden, it’s over. Maybe you had a fight. Maybe you just grew apart. All you know is, part of your heart has just been ripped out and you’re never going to let anyone that close to you again.
Then one day, you meet someone. A spark is struck. You want to see them again, even though you’re still hurting from that break up. Whenever you’re near them, this weird feeling fills you. It might be happiness. Or love, except you’ve decided you’re done with that.
At first, you try to keep that person at arm’s length. If you let them too close, they might hurt you. Been there, done that, don’t want the shirt. No matter how hard you try, though, you can’t help letting them into your life. And into the heart you’d slammed shut.
And that’s what breaking up has to do with romance. After a break up, you might close your heart and think it’s forever, but someday you do find someone worth opening up for again. Maybe someone who’s even better for you than the one you ended things with. Someone you can love.
And that’s what romance is all about.